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Step 1 – Start Where You Are

Woman on Beach Looking at Ocean“God made my life complete when I placed all the pieces before Him; when I got my act together, He gave me a fresh start….”Psalm 18:20 – The Message


If I asked you to tell me about yourself and who you are, what would you say?

Typically, our first responses would be to talk about the roles we have in life such as teacher, Mom, CEO, factory worker, mechanic, librarian, physician, etc.

Who am I?

But that is only a small part of our life story. That is merely the outside surface layer. How do you describe yourself outside of those roles?

  • What do you value and believe?
  • What do you think about?
  • What do you like to do and why?
  • What do you hate and why?
  • How would you describe life in general?
  • What creates problems for you?
  • Do you consider them faults and failings that have more power over your life than the unrecognized assets and strong points that are waiting to be applied?

Say Hello to Yourself

Take a sheet of paper and draw a round circle in the center. Add a smiley face and put your name in the middle. Draw spokes leading outward like a sun. Each of these spokes radiating outward is a part of how you describe or define who you are.

As you consider the following questions, write on each of the spokes a descriptive word about you.  Be sure you have a balance.  We are an amalgam of positive traits and those we might see as not so positive.  We are not either/or.  We are a wonderful combination. We have strengths and we have weaknesses.  We benefit from all of them.


  1. What traits or strengths would you assign to yourself? For example: Do you see yourself as strong, determined, or hesitating and thoughtful, etc.
  2. Describe some of your social skills. For example: do you consider yourself friendly, shy and aloof or engaging, talkative, social, etc.
  3. What are your predominant attitudes or ways of thinking? (Dependable, trusting, independent, reliable, loyal, positive, etc.)
  4. How would you describe your typical emotional state? (happy, anxious, angry, contented, cheerful, compassionate, etc)
  5. What talents and abilities do you have? (Artistic, computer savvy, athletic, good planner, etc.)

We are a composite of DNA, personality, childhood experiences and the core beliefs we put in place while growing up. We are a combination of strengths and weaknesses. Be as honest as you can and add as many spokes as you need.  You are a wonderful child of God.  Take this image with you as you move forward to constructing a beautiful life.

Marlene Anderson

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